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Louise Marks "Pat" Jacob
Louise Marks "Pat" Jacob, 89, of Dayton, Ohio, died on 17 February 2015. The Funeral was on Thursday, 19 February 2015 at 9:30 AM . Rabbi Harold Loss officiated. Interment at Beth El Memorial Park, 28120 6 Mile Road, Livonia MI 48152.
Family members include: Beloved wife of the late Richard J. Jacob. Cherished mother of Pat and David VanArtsdalen and Andy and Linda Jacob. Loving grandmother of Jennifer VanArtsdalen, David and Leeann VanArtsdalen, Sarah Jacob, Adam and Sarah Jacob, and Noah Jacob. Dear sister of the late Muriel "Mickey" Stix (the late Lawrence Stix. Aunt of Louise Stix and Jennifer (Paul) Muth. Mom was born Louise Marks on May 7, 1925. Nicknamed Patsy, she grew up on the south side of Chicago with her older sister Mickey and her parents Arnold and Frances. Mom attended the Faulkner School for Girls and later Rockford Women's college in Rockford Ill. At the close of World War II she met Lester Neiman, an army officer stationed in Chicago, who introduced her to Dick Jacob. After a brief courtship, Dad proposed while they were skiing at Boyne Mountain and they were married on April 2, 1949, a marriage that lasted 54 years. Mom had an accepting attitude, both towards people and life in general. She did not have pretense nor did she have expectations about what others should do or say. She was stoic by nature and as a result never showed disappointment about the course of her life or social affairs. Her life with Dad was a rich one and she was his life partner, sharing in his business success and supporting him through the many challenges of his career. When Mom first came to Detroit, in her words an outpost compared to her native Chicago, she quickly made many friends, and the most important to her were her sisters-in-law Dolly, Reva, Rolla, Ellie and Flo Neiman. When Dad's business fortunes changed necessitating a move to Dayton, Ohio, Mom quickly adapted again, making new friends and creating a close social network in what would be her home for almost 50 years. Mom loved to have fun, and to her fun was going out, being with people, maybe a cocktail or two, and plenty of laughter. She loved her life with Dad, the traveling, the adventures with new people, and the excitement of being the wife of a Fortune 500 CEO. She love being with her sister Mickey. Like two little German frauen, they would sit on the sofa in Mickey's living room with a bottle of gin, giggling like school girls until late into the night. She loved Dad and they were quite a sight together, Mom about 5' 1' and 105 pounds and Dad 6' and 280. Dad with his sometimes mis-matched outfits and Mom always elegant and stylish. Mom was not exactly cut out to be a homemaker, a characteristic she inherited from her mother Frances who Mom said was a Flapper. The kitchen was not Mom's favorite room which given Dad's love of food made for the only incompatibility in their otherwise successful marriage. Since Dad would entertain for business during the week, Sundays were family days and Sunday night meant Chinese food. We ate a lot of Chinese food as it was clearly Mom's favorite default meal. One of Mom's favorite expressions was "what do people die from if they don't have children?" But in spite of her roaring twenties, suffragette, anti-housewife, independent streak, Mom was always there for me and Patti. Patti and I both left home at 18, and although Mom would have preferred that we stayed closer, she understood where our independence came from. Mom had 83 great years and 7 that were not so great. Dementia is a cruel disease and it took from Mom everything she cared about. She would have hated how she lived these last few years but thankfully she was unaware of her condition. Although the Mother we knew left long ago, her passing on Tuesday triggered memories of our real mother, the vivacious, fully alive and engaged woman Patti and I choose to remember. A tribute given at Pat's funeral by her son Andy Jacob. It is suggested that those who wish to further honor the memory of Louise Marks "Pat" Jacob may do so by making a contribution to: Cranbrook SchoolsClick to Visit Charity Website or A Charity of Your Choice |